I mentioned in a previous post that you should never try to ignore the abusive past that you’ve experienced. Some people say that hurtful pasts make you “stronger.” I don’t know if I believe that or not. I think sometimes people say that so they can build up their tough-armor. So that they can add another layer of protection to the walls they’re constructing around their hearts.
No, I don’t think that hardships make you stronger. I believe that hardships, abuse, etc., if taken time to heal from and responded to with a spirit of determination, kindness, and patience, give me the strength only to be more vulnerable. I am not invincible, but I am determined that I will never lose my capacity to feel. Never shut down on my heart, my hurt, my pain ever again. Because I am worth loving myself for.
And, as the poet Rumi says:
“Don’t turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you.”
The light. I can’t help thinking about how true all the clichés can be.