Opening up to the past. It can be really hurtful. It’s so much easier to block everything out. To shut down. To make yourself try to forget. As Scarlett O’Hara liked to say in Gone with the Wind, “I won’t think about that today, I’ll think about that tomorrow.”
Our culture can be so stoic sometimes, it trains us to shut things away into the closet within ourselves. That messy cartoon closet that’s so stuffed the door barely shuts, but it looks just great from the outside. As long as the door is clean and the latch is closed. Sometimes, our culture forces us to clench a smile onto our faces, and to project a sunshiny attitude onto everything.
But sometimes staying positive isn’t so easy to do. So I suggest a change in the meaning of positivity. To me, positivity isn’t about always being happy. It’s not about always smiling, always laughing, and otherwise having a perfect beginning, conflict, and resolution plot line to your life. To me, positivity is about always recognizing that things will get better eventually. Not today, not tomorrow, not because you force yourself to be “ok,” but because you hope, you know, you strive, so that one day your perseverance will pay off. Positivity doesn’t mean you always have to be happy. Just that you should never give up hope.
As Galadriel says in the movie version of Lord of the Rings, “Let [hope] be a light to you in all places, when all other lights go out.”
It’s funny how light always comes up as the cliché analogy when speaking about a hopeful future, but in my opinion, there must be a reason that countless authors throughout the centuries have used light to describe it all. I guess it’s because, although the sun may set, it has to rise again eventually 🙂