The past comes back sometimes in ways that I can never anticipate.  Cleaning out my childhood room, for instance, held some memories that punched me in the stomach.  Memories that I’d thought were buried.  You see, forgetfulness is a drug that I’ve enjoyed for a long time.  To cope with the trauma from my childhood, my mind clamped down hard, like an iron wall, on several of my most painful memories.  But sometimes a crow bar gets in there and pries a hole underneath that iron wall.  A hole that lets painful memories seep in under the gap.

That’s what happened when I cleaned through my stuff in my parents’ house (finally!) a few weekends ago.  For nearly as long as I’ve been able to write, I’ve been journaling.  When there was no one else to listen to, to talk to about anything, I had my best friend, my journal, to tell my thoughts and confusion to.  Well, I found one of these journals the other day.  An old school journal, I almost threw it out thinking that it held nothing of importance or value.  But, since I’m a pack rat who never throws anything away without intense consideration, naturally I had to peek inside.

I kind of wish I hadn’t.

I’ve always been incredibly protective of my food.  Nothing makes my eyebrows raise and my nostrils flare faster than when someone snags a bite from my plate without asking.  Nothing makes me grumpier than being super hungry.

When I was little, I was constantly hungry.  Constantly.  There was always a deep, gnawing, painful hunger in the pit of my stomach. And sometimes, when I’d get food all to myself, I’d scarf it so fast I nearly made myself sick.

That day, at my parents’ house, I found a journal entry that explained why.  In the innocent voice of my 7 year old self, I read about how I gave away my last fish stick to my brother, because he needed it more than me.  Because I remembered that if I didn’t give him my food, he’d take it.  If my mom bought me chocolate milk, he’d drink it.  If someone made me a birthday cake, he’d lick all the icing off before I even got a chance to see it.  He “needed” more food than me, he needed the food “more” than me, and to me, that “logic” made perfect sense.

So I gave him more food.  I gave him my food.  And the gnawing emptiness in my stomach continued to grumble, desperate for someone to pay attention to it.

For most of my life, I felt starved; starved for attention, starved for food, starved for love. I guess now I know why I have to fight the beast within me every time someone asks me for one of my french fries…


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